They Will Never Forget How You Made Them Feel

About a week ago, I sent a short greeting card to the very first friend that I made in the DC Metro area. We hadn’t caught up in awhile and I wanted to let him know that I had relocated to Brooklyn. When we met in the Summer of 2003, we spent HOURS upon HOURS on the phone talking about EVERYTHING from life to pop culture to music to spirituality. Of course my conversations were always filled with my dreams and aspirations of being a big editor in the city. Even though, I was an editorial assistant at a small nonprofit in Georgetown at the time, I always said, “One day, one day I am going to move to New York and become an editor at Essence magazine.”

He was always incredibly supportive of me creating a life and career in New York, and whenever we would catch up over the years, one of the first things he would ask me is “Have you moved to New York yet?” As the dream felt further out of reach, I would hate him at times for asking me this. But he would always follow-up with “I don’t want to hear that you’ve given up on this dream. I expect to hear from you in New York one day soon.”

Of course, once I got settled into the city, I had to let him know that I was now a Brooklynite. When I sent the greeting card, I didn’t think twice about it. Folks don’t respond to snail mail anymore, so imagine my surprise when I received a full one-page letter in the mail yesterday. I was overcome with joy and especially touched when he ended his letter with the following words:

“[Leah] you are the most positive and upbeat person I have yet to meet in almost 40 years of life. (I still think of you whenever Stevie Wonder comes on). To know that your long-term goals came to pass proves that with God all things are possible.” 

These were just the words that I needed to hear and it reminded me of Maya Angelou’s quote:

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

I’m incredibly blessed that I have friends both near and far who’ve left incredible imprints on my heart and I’m blessed that I’ve been able to do the same.

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