While I understood Kanye’s intention with the song, I believe it made some women ashamed to expect or ask for the best from a man for fear of being labeled a gold digger.
Tag: Love
Hello Dating!
I recognized that I was putting men into a husband-and-family express lane…
You Gotta Do Your Work
I spent so many days in late spring vacillating between being grateful that I dodged a HUGE bullet to being outraged that he took my love and generosity for granted.
For the Love of Titi
On an early Saturday morning in August, I arrived in midtown to take on a personal development course. It had already been a VERY long and a VERY hot first summer in New York for me. I was grinding hard to make my writing hustle come together, I was nearing the end of my long-distance…
Bringing My Milkshake Back to the Yard
Maybe I just needed to move my milkshake to a bigger yard. Maybe I have a special glow now that I’m living in the city of my dreams. It’s been quite refreshing to finally have my milkshake on a yard where it’s appreciated.
The Soul Catch-Up
One of the people that I have been blessed to encounter in my life over the last few years is my life coach and spiritual counselor, dava. I first began working with dava right after I completed graduate school in 2008 and we worked together right up until my 30th birthday. My Friday nights with…
Every Day is a Testimony Service
I started to get a little self-conscious a few weeks ago about my New York-based Facebook posts. No one said anything, but in the back of my head I was thinking, “I’m sure someone is saying, ‘Leah, if you post one more thing with the words ‘Brooklyn’ or ‘New York,’ I’m gonna scream!” I consciously…
They Will Never Forget How You Made Them Feel
About a week ago, I sent a short greeting card to the very first friend that I made in the DC Metro area. We hadn’t caught up in awhile and I wanted to let him know that I had relocated to Brooklyn. When we met in the Summer of 2003, we spent HOURS upon HOURS…
Wearing Mabel’s Crown
“Your crown has already been paid for; all you have to do is put it on your head.” – James Baldwin. I just LOVE this quote, and I think about it quite a bit when I reflect on the lives of those who came before me. I’ve thought a lot about my grandmother, my father’s…
Year 35: A Dream for My Daughter
To My Little Angel, Now as far as I know, my half of your DNA is still resting safely in my egg cartons and your father’s portion is resting securely with him. But if you have any intel about who and where your Daddy is you let your Mommy know, OK? I woke up…
Smashing the Zsa Zsa Zsu
I am a proud, Manolo Blahnik-aspiring disciple of the fictional yet fabulous Carrie Bradshaw. I fell in love with “Sex and the City” during its final season in 2003 just as I was embarking upon my first year of adulthood. As an aspiring New Yorker, I absolutely adored all of the show’s fashion, sky-high stilettos,…
And Meah Too
A few weeks ago, I had one of those surreal moments where I could literally be in the moment and truly realize how blessed I am. I had just finished eating dinner with the Wakefield clan in Annapolis and all of a sudden per Cameron’s insistence we broke out into our own little dance party…
The Ink Well 