Becoming Ida’s Daughter

When I typically introduce myself to others, I normally identify myself as a sister, an auntie, a friend, a singer, and a writer. I rarely if ever say that I am a daughter.  Now that both of my parents are gone, it’s uncomfortable to stand as their daughter without a lot of uncomfortable conversation about…

Ida’s Angels

You may have heard of Charlie’s Angels but those skinny white chicks ain’t got nothing on my big sisters, the amazing daughters of Ida Mae Turner Lakins, whom I affectionately refer to (at least in my head) as Ida’s Angels.  Thirty years ago she gave them the extraordinary task to not only go out in…

Creating New Rules for Dating

Friends, I have to confess. The fount of my saltiness for my Valentine’s Haterade post was due to a boy. Yes, the queen of butterflies and rainbows momentarily took off her crown and became a Terry McMillan character for the day. It wasn’t a necessarily pretty journey but getting to the other side of my…